Reactive vs. Proactive what kind of type are you. Have you developed the habit of productive people?
In our previous article, we showed the story of Frank. He was able to develop the first habit of productive people, the habit of proactivity.
Even though he was in terrible conditions, he decided not to let the environment influence the way he feels.
The word proactivity it is a common word in management literature, but it is a word you won’t find in most dictionaries.
It is more than just taking the initiative. It means that we as human beings are responsible for own lives.
We have initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.
The word responsibility-“response-ability”-the ability to choose your response. Proactive people do not blame conditions or circumstances for their behavior.
It is a product of their own conscious choice.
They base their choice on values, rather than on conditions, or feelings.
Physical environment often affects reactive people.
If the weather is good, they will feel good. If not, it is going to affect their attitude and their performance.
Reactive people can also be affected by “the social weather.”
When people treat them well, they feel well, if not, they become defensive or protective.
Reactive people build their emotional lives around the behavior of others. They give other people the authority to have control over them.
Reactive people are driven by feelings, circumstances, or by their environment.
Proactive people are motivated by values that have thought carefully.
External stimuli can affect proactive people, but their response is a value-based choice.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can hurt you without your consent.“
Gandhi said, “They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them.”
It’s not what happens to us, but our response that hurts us. Of course, things can hurt us physically or economically and can cause sorrow. But our character, our primary identity, does not have to be hurt at all.
In fact, our most difficult experiences in life forge our character and develop the internal powers.
It gives us the freedom to handle difficult circumstances in the future and to inspire others to do as well.
Frank is one of many who have been able to develop the personal freedom under challenging circumstances.
We have all known individuals in terrible circumstances, perhaps with a terminal illness or a severe physical handicap, who maintain high emotional strength. How inspired we are by their integrity!
It is very encouraging when you see that someone has transcended suffering, and is expressing a value that inspires, ennobles and lifts life.
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