Success is as depended on our ability to talk like any other skill we have. If we have difficulty talking to people but still have a burning desire to be happy or successful, we better overcome our shortcomings.
1-Don’t be afraid to be trivial and sometimes dull talking to people
There is a reason it’s called “small talk.” The weather, tv shows, sports, or almost everything will serve to begin the conversation. Try to prepare key topics of the discussion that you are going to make. It may be something that you have discussed before, about their passion or similar interests.
2-Expect that you have to warm up the conversation
It takes the time to get rolling before the discussion becomes interesting. That’s perfectly normal.
3-Get the other person to talk about himself
You can ask for advice. It is a potent technique to make them feel good around you. It encourages cooperation and information sharing.
Repeat their last 2-3 words in a soft, questioning tone. That makes people talk more.
Ask a question that has the power to alter their emotions. Questions like:
What is your best memory of your childhood?
What is your favourite song or artist?
What is your favourite movie?
Why did you choose this profession?
Which is the person that you admire most?
What is something that would change about yourself?
If the other person answers by saying something negative about himself, you say that it is a trait that everybody has or that everybody does that.
Here are some questions to break the ice when you are in a work environment:
How did you come up with this idea?
What got you started in this industry?
What got you interested in marketing/research/teaching?
What do you enjoy most about your profession?
What separates you and your firm from your competition?
Why does your company______?
Describe some of the challenges of your profession.
What’s the most difficult part of your job?
Do you know someone who can help me ______?
4-Don’t talk about yourself unless you are invited to
And then keep it brief and humble. You can give them a sense that you are participating you can use “me too “approach. Only agree with that you hear from the other person.
It is essential to talk positively about other people.
Give a compliment to someone else and never say something negative.
The reason is that people perceive you in the way you describe others.
5-Keep the conversation positive
Don’t fall into the temptation of talking trash about everything and everybody at your work, government, inflation, death, and disease. Talk about their hopes, dreams, their best vacation, the most exciting times they can remember.
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